It’s intriguing that the urban battle of the sexes is being fought in the arena of the date. Surely there are more deserving battlegrounds but let start with paying the bill on your “First Date”. It’s strange that we men, no matter how educated or liberal are we, tend to do the same thing which our father of our fore father used to do. If a woman can feel to get the treat for free so are we but there lies the boundary of our chivalry, male chauvinism. The age old custom running in our blood surely not let it go soon. I Googled for some help and it also sadden me further as the most top Dating Sites, Magazines & even Newspaper now insisting men to pay on the First Date. Feminist out there do you have a take on that?
Men spend a lot to impress women. When they are spending the money, they rarely think that the women they are trying so hard to woo will end up as a fierce wife or an angry girlfriend or just a jaded live-in partner. I want to flashback to all the penultimate moments at dinners with women when the waiter would cordially ask, would you like me to bring the Bill, now, Sir?
Why not ask the lady sitting opposite me!!
No that’s not exactly I said in the restaurants. I never have the guts to say so as I am like a normal Bengali guy, without Backbone.
Well we men are too much emotional and yes much more than women and it’s just that we couldn’t vent out because from childhood we are taught to not cry, not to do stuff that is like a girl kind of or deep down the line we are so much insecure about us, insecure about our emotion, insecure about the woman we love & like so therefore we used to pay on first date to hide our insecurity. May be we pay as we too afraid of her losing again. May be we pay because that at the time of wedding we vouch to take care of her personally & economically. The root of this act goes deep into time when women were financially dependent on men, and flaunting the wallet was extremely important to win over a Fairy.
I only hope today’s working women, who flash their cards faster than lightning, don’t want to go back to the past. My findings on the net almost persuade me to thinking otherwise, though. Some of my discoveries are awfully disgracing, but don’t worry girls, I don’t expect you to accept the facts— for I know you would never. I know girls are always run short of two things, one is Money and the other is Balance of their Cell phone.
I have raised the question before and one woman I knew went saying she doesn’t mind paying for the dinner, but that would be only after the relationship has graduated to the next level. I don’t clearly understand what she meant by next level—many couples jump into bed before they develop anything between them these days. I guess she didn’t mean being physical. Ouch!
Now the question is do men & women want to change or we both are too comfortable in our old skins? I, as, a representative of male, can surely vouch that it’s the most uncomfortable question to answer that who should pay the bill on the First Date but again I think It’s bit unfair of me if I entirely pin the blame on women, when It takes two to uphold social and behavioral norms.
Men spend a lot to impress women. When they are spending the money, they rarely think that the women they are trying so hard to woo will end up as a fierce wife or an angry girlfriend or just a jaded live-in partner. I want to flashback to all the penultimate moments at dinners with women when the waiter would cordially ask, would you like me to bring the Bill, now, Sir?
Why not ask the lady sitting opposite me!!
No that’s not exactly I said in the restaurants. I never have the guts to say so as I am like a normal Bengali guy, without Backbone.
Well we men are too much emotional and yes much more than women and it’s just that we couldn’t vent out because from childhood we are taught to not cry, not to do stuff that is like a girl kind of or deep down the line we are so much insecure about us, insecure about our emotion, insecure about the woman we love & like so therefore we used to pay on first date to hide our insecurity. May be we pay as we too afraid of her losing again. May be we pay because that at the time of wedding we vouch to take care of her personally & economically. The root of this act goes deep into time when women were financially dependent on men, and flaunting the wallet was extremely important to win over a Fairy.
I only hope today’s working women, who flash their cards faster than lightning, don’t want to go back to the past. My findings on the net almost persuade me to thinking otherwise, though. Some of my discoveries are awfully disgracing, but don’t worry girls, I don’t expect you to accept the facts— for I know you would never. I know girls are always run short of two things, one is Money and the other is Balance of their Cell phone.
Now the question is do men & women want to change or we both are too comfortable in our old skins? I, as, a representative of male, can surely vouch that it’s the most uncomfortable question to answer that who should pay the bill on the First Date but again I think It’s bit unfair of me if I entirely pin the blame on women, when It takes two to uphold social and behavioral norms.
Man!!! You are opening a Pandora box..
ReplyDeletewhile you will get secret sympathies of men (and, I must say, few women) Beware.. :)